Wilma Whitener

Wilma M Whitener

Tuesday, July 7th, 1931 - Tuesday, February 25th, 2020
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Wilma Whitener, a long-time resident of Quincy, died Tuesday the 25th of February, 2020 at Central Washington Hospital in Wenatchee.

She was born on July 7, 1931 in Ellensburg, WA to Walter R. and Mary M. (Morris) Gay. She moved to Quincy in her senior year of high school in 1949 and met her husband Keith Whitener with whom she married on August 17, 1951.

Wilma was most known for her commitment to her family as a loving wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother. Her home was the center for celebrations and reunions of all sorts. She enjoyed her wonderful circle of friends in her bridge club, Red Hat Society and bird watching group. She also loved socializing, traveling, gardening and bird watching.

She has three children, Eric (Alison) Whitener, Mindi (Howard) Finke, and Kevin (Theresa) Whitener. She has five grandchildren; René, Jamie, Cy, Geoff and Haley and two great-grandchildren, Aniston and Rees; brothers, Ray and Lee Gay.

She is preceded in death by her husband Keith, her parents and her sister, Lucille Kronquist.

Graveside services will be held at 10:00 A.M. on Saturday March 7, 2020 at the Quincy Valley Cemetery, with a Celebration of Life Service to follow at 11:00am at Scharbach's Columbia Funeral Chapel in Quincy.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that friends make donations to the Reimann-Simmons House or to The Cambridge in Quincy.

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Scharbach’s Columbia Funeral Chapel, Quincy, is assisting the family with arrangements.
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Service Details

  • Celebration of Life Service

    Saturday, March 7th, 2020 | 11:00am
    Saturday, March 7th, 2020 11:00am
    Scharbachs Columbia Funeral Chapel
    300 G Street SE
    QUINCY, WA 98848
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    Pastor Jess Slusher
  • Interment

    Saturday, March 7th, 2020 | 10:00am
    Saturday, March 7th, 2020 10:00am
    Quincy Valley Cemetery
    625 F Street SW
    QUINCY, WA 98848
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Grace Ogoshi

Posted at 01:59pm
As a young child, it was my privilege to become acquainted with many of the Whitener families as the home next to us belonged to Grandma and Grandpa Whitener. This home was often the respite place prior to families building their own homes elsewhere in the community. Wilma was one of those people who never sought out acclaim for herself but whose organization, wisdom and leadership of her children provided many opportunities for them to self-explore, promoted leadership, self-confidence and curiosity. She was organized, committed and a hard-worker who never complained. She was compassionate and caring while allowing her children to learn from life's lessons and explorations. I remember spending hours with Mindy and Kevin, some of the fondest in a little "game closet" cubby as one ascended the stairs to the upstairs bedrooms, or coercing Kevin to ride my ginormous tricycle up and down the sidewalk while Mindy and I were in rope-tow, trailing behind on our roller skates, having shared a skate key to adjust our clamp-on, steel-wheeled skates. Wilma often included me in family outings such as going to the local grocery store to get the autograph of Roy Rogers, who was passing through town, or playing hide-and-seek, through the dried corn husks out on the Adam's road farmstead, while the adults had a gathering of their own. Mindy, being a couple of years older, educated me in the many facets of life I had never even considered. She knew both process and content because her many questions were answered by her mother. Laughter at life's faux pas and situations was something Wilma and Keith taught their children, and the enthusiasm for living was always present, with guidelines of organization, hard-work and respect. These moments were shared with me, as the "little kid next door," and were often a respite from our "have to appear acceptable-Amercan-Japanese existence, post World War II. When they moved to their new home out in the country, I remember pleading with my mother to ask them to "babysit" me as I missed the company of the Whitener family. I remember being served cottage cheese with a dollop of raspberry jam, on that visit,which was a change from our usual rice and stir-fried meals. I went home to report to my mother this was something we needed to serve as well. It was the sharing of what might seem small, unimportant facets that widened the windows of my world. Wilma and Keith both shared life with their children, guiding them with wisdom and unbiased decision making, in which truth, knowledge, and enjoyment were more important. She is one of those quiet heroines who makes a community strong, vital and grows the next generation to be the leaders . May good memories sustain those periods of loneliness and grief of your wonderful mother (and father). Grace Ogoshi

Mindi Finke Posted at 06:22pm

Grace: what a wonderful memorial to mom and dad. We did have so much fun, didn't we?! I always loved to play in the toy cupboard in the upstairs hallway, and roller skating and little Kevin towing us behind bbn the tricycle. And we had the Gonzales and Cruz kids behind us, too. And across the street were all of the "widow ladies". Thank heavens they liked kids because our yards and street were always filled with shrieks and laughter. Summer time was the best because sometimes our parents would let us run amok after the sun went down. We played laser tag with flashlights and scared the bejeezus out of each other. My childhood memories are most often from that time in my life. We grew up in Mayberry, didn't we? Thank you for the memories and kind words about my parents. They were so wonderful and will be missed.

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